Whose Birth is it Anyway?

It feels as though almost as soon as the Duke and Duchess of Sussex announced their pregnancy the way they choose to birth has become a topic for public debate.  I have seen numerous articles circulating the world of social media, I’ve read many and….. I’ve been guilty of sharing the odd one on my Facebook page, mainly those defending the decisions it is speculated they have made.

Now I feel it’s time for another kind of piece around this topic.  And for once it isn’t focused specifically around the Duke and Duchess of Sussex and their unborn (to the best of my knowledge) child, though I have been inspired to write this based on the media’s recent treatment of them.

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Helen Discombe
Overwhelm is NOT (always) a choice

I was thinking about a phrase that pisses me off.  Have you ever been told “overwhelm is a choice”?  The reason why it pisses me off is it is quite often said with nothing else behind it.  Like…. You can wake up and look at everything you need to do and just choose to not feel overwhelmed.  For me, that doesn’t make any of that stuff go away. 

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Helen Discombe
Facebook Live, Ego, My Tribe and Birth

This blog started out as a piece to explore Ego and self-preservation based on my own experiences of a challenge I'm doing on Facebook.  As I wrote it grew into a piece about Ego and birth.  Our Ego has so much power over us.  If we allow it to.  Our Ego is part of us and so we can, ultimately, chose if we should listen to it.  Easier said than done though.....  Anyway, I hope you enjoy reading this piece and my link isn't too tenuous (there goes the Ego again).

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Helen Discombe
Dream the life you want, live the life you Dream

I have moments of considering having a business coach on and off.  I’ve felt that if I had someone to guide me in my work I would have more structure.  The creative part of my work would flow more easily.  I would have accountability and deadlines.  But do accountability and deadlines compliment creativity (I am, after all, the creator of my own work)?  Or are they simply traits I am trying to apply to my work from the many years I have spent in employed work?

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Helen Discombe
A Doula is Born

This year, during World Doula Week I have received confirmation that I have passed the Aspiring Doulas training course which I completed with Kicki Hansard at BirthBliss Academy.  This means I may now register with the UK’s only accrediting body for Doula’s, Doula UK, as a Mentored Doula while I work through their recognition process to become a Recognised Doula.  The timing of this feels magical.

The decision to work as a Doula is definitely the answering of a call to do this kind of work.  So, how did I know being a Doula was the right path for me?

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Helen Discombe
International Women’s Day 2018 - Feminism and Me

When I became a mother it was as though my eyes were opened.  There was a huge shift in the way I saw the world, much of it beautiful, but two things I learned very fast and became very passionate about were that birth and motherhood are feminist issues.  My experiences of birth and the early days of motherhood have shaped me. 

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Helen Discombe
Closing the Bones

Last night I returned home from two days of workshops in Cambridge with the wonderful Sophie Messager.  I felt drained and tired, but also calm and peaceful.  I felt reflective and a little bit emotional (still)….

When I sat down to write this, I had planned to write about both of the workshops I attended (Mindful Rebozo for Doulas & Birthworkers and Closing the Bones).  But I feel my experience of yesterday’s Closing the Bones workshop needs a blog of its own. 

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Helen Discombe
HypnoBirthing and Me

Tokophobia, or the fear of childbirth, is thought to affect as many as one in five women, according to the NCT. Worryingly, primary Tokophobia - the fear of childbirth without having had a child - is on the increase.

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Andy Birch